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Mirza Ghulam Ahmad on Aisha (ra) and child marriage

Dear readers, we have recently found some references from MGA in terms of the age of Aisha at her marriage and that of child marriage in general.  We are searching for additional quotes.

The quotes
“With reference to Hazrat ‘A’ishah’sra age on her wedding ceremony, it has been written that she was 9 years of age. Firstly, there is no evidence that the Holy Prophetsa stated this, nor had there been any revelation in regards to this. Nor is it substantiated from the Akbaar-e-Mutawaatirah, [Saying of the Prophet Muhmmadsa reported by a large number of people] that she was certainly 9 years. It has only been taken from one narrator. The Arab people did not keep birth certificates because they were unlettered and in view of their circumstances, a difference of two or three years is normal. Even in our country, many illiterate people cannot tell the difference between a couple of years. Moreover, if hypothetically, we were even to accept this, after having calculated each and every day, that she was in fact 9 years old; even then no intelligent person could object – research doctors have come to agree upon that girls can attain maturity even at the age of 9; in fact, they can even have children at the age of 7. And doctors have proven this through major observations. Many hundreds have witnessed with their own eyes that in this country 9 year old girls have had children.””(Nurul Quran, No.2, Ruhani Khazain, V.9, pp.377-378). 

“Hazrat ‘A’ishahra being 9 years is only found among baseless statements. It is not proven by any Hadith or the Quran (Arya DharamRuhani Khazain, v.10, p.64).  

Mirza Bashir Ahmad wrote in 1920
The author of one of the most comprehensive biographies on the Prophet MuhammadsaThe Life and Character of the Seal of Prophets, suggests that Hazrat ‘A’ishahra may have been twelve years old. Since girls mature quickly in hot climates, it would not have been anything unusual for her to have been married at this age.


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The Life & Character of the Seal of Prophets(sa) – Volume II

Did Muhammad marry Aisha when she was only six years old?

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Mirza Basheer-uddin Mahmud Ahmad, the Ahmadi Khalifa claims that child marriage is OK in the 21st century and Aisha was 12

MGA was married at a very young age, 12-13, his sons were also married off very young, in fact, in a farming economy, this is the norm.  However, in the 21st century, this norm has been abandoned.  Many Muslims have argued that the norms of farming economies don’t need to be followed, in fact, almost all Muslim countries don’t allow anyone to be married under the age of 16 by 2017However, Ahmadis have always been changing their position on many islamic issues, and then they lie about it.  With the case of the Age of Aisha at marriage, we have the same situation.  Since at least the 1960’s, Ahmadiyya sources have been telling us that Aisha was 19 when she got married to Muhammad (saw), however, previous Ahmadiyya sources argued that she was 12.  When we present this info to ahmadis, they refuse to answer, then they cry persecution.

The scan

Anwar ul Uloom by Mirza Bashiruddin Mahmud Ahmad

“””Muslims do not need any laws which prohibit what has been allowed by the Shariat and Islam. Interference with what has been permitted is an extremely bad thing. One such thing is marriage in childhood which is becoming less and less customary. Marriage in childhood comes with certain conditions such as when the girl reaches an age of maturity she may refuse such a marriage. This was something that the prophet himself had practiced. Aisha’s Rukhsati (bride leaving her parents home) took place when she was 12 years old. Arabs used to mature earlier. Aisha had a special status. If she had been older she would not have spent much time with the prophet and we would not have the benefit of her insight and service to Islam. To stop something that the prophet permitted and practiced is an important issue. I (the author) say we should stop child marriage on a temporary basis until muslims stop taking advantage of this permission.

Governments should be told about the defects of these laws and what the dangers for Muslims are. If the governments say we should not interfere in such matters, then we can be assured and we can tolerate this.”””

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Did Muhammad marry Aisha when she was only six years old?

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Repressive Sexual Morality and Marriage within the Ahmadiyya Muslim Community [x-post from German subreddit]

This is a reproduction of the the post ‘Repressive Sexualmoral und Heiratsdruck innerhalb der Ahmadiyya‘ on the German edition of this subreddit, which you can find here: You can use a Chrome plugin to provide an English translation. While it’s of course, not perfect, it does come across quite well. This post was written by German subreddit moderator, u/Q_Ahmad. It was also taken from the islam/ahmadiyya reddit.

The write-up

In many conservative, sexual and love-negative religious communities, ‘sex outside marriage’ is considered a sin. In the purity culture prevailing there, young men and women are taught that any sexual interaction before marriage is wrong. Usually, however, girls are subject to stricter regulations. Boys are always taught that their minds are a gate to sin, but girls are always taught that this gate is their own body that they should cover.

From an early age, girls are told that they are responsible not only for their own spiritual purity, but also for the spiritual purity of the men and boys around them. Girls are sexual “stumbling blocks”, a danger to the relationship between men and God. As a result, sexual purity and upbringing focused solely on abstinence (sexual abstinence) until marriage is emphasized. The belief is that only when women receive their virginity until they marry a man are they holy and spiritually pure. Your own sexuality is associated with corruption and shame. These feelings often follow the relationships of women with their bodies for a lifetime.

Fear is the motivation behind this purity culture. There are, of course, the usual anxiety scenarios associated with the violation: unwanted pregnancy, sexually transmitted infections and broken hearts. The actual foundation of fear that is being implemented goes deeper. It is conveyed to you that a single act, a single moment will destroy your future marriage and put your entire life in this world as well as your salvation in the hereafter at risk. [ 1st ] [ 2nd ] [ 3rd ]

There is a peculiarity in the Ahmadiyya community that the ‘red line’ is not drawn only during premarital sex. Any contact between the sexes, even in compliance with the strict veiling rules, is in principle a violation of the red line. Therefore, strict gender segregation / separation is enforced within the community. As a religious minority in Germany, of course, this cannot be established for contacts outside the Jama’at. A greater tolerance for contacts outside the Jama’at is therefore tolerated. But here too, care is taken to ensure that these contacts do not become too friendly, even if they are only of a ‘platonic nature’. In principle, all cross-gender contact is subject to justification. In a society where many areas are still dominated by men, this leads to

The monitoring and enforcement of gender segregation is monitored, documented and enforced by community-internal committees such as Amoomi (“moral police”), Rishta-Naata (marriage) and Tarbiyyati (educational) departments. There is also social control through ‘whisper and rumour networks’ in which (alleged) violations are recorded and punished. All of this comes in a kind of ‘honorary account’ that must be defended within the Jama’at. Therefore, the urge to marry one’s own children begins relatively early in order to anticipate a later ‘dishonour’. The statement of the community for this is that the children “as early as (legally) possible” [ 4th ] should be married. The wedding should not wait until you have finished your school / studies, training, work and are independent. [ 5th ]

​ The Jama’at recommends that the hijab / purdah regulation be introduced for both sexes from the age of three so that children can get used to it from an early age. [ 6th ] With the onset of puberty, they become mandatory.

At the same time, pressure is being built up within the family and by other community members to marry the children as soon as possible, usually with a partner arranged by the family or community. It is usually an age at which you develop your personality and are probably still completely dependent on your parents.

The choice one is made of is too often, regardless of one’s own will, subordinated to the target or upset the family and even being expelled from it. The possibility of being separated from the people you love the most and having to struggle through on your own seems unthinkable. This gives the parents and the extended family emotional leverage to enforce their will.

If you can marry your children while still under the strong control of their parents, there is no space and time for these young adults to really develop and explore their own identity. As soon as they are married, it is extremely difficult to lead your own life independently.

If you start to be critical of the Jama’at or the Khalifa, it will not only affect you, but also your spouse, children and your spouse’s extended families. Once there is a marriage and children are added, the lifestyle and Jama’at investment is too big to really question, even at the expense of personal authenticity. to really develop and explore their own identity.

With the marriage pressure, the community has an excellent means of being able to control the Jama’at members. Any violation of the municipal rules or a lack of participation in the numerous community events can have a negative impact on the ‘marriage ability’, so that the loyalty and activity in the Jama’at and the marriage ability are mutually dependent. Since there is no real way to get to know each other across genders within the community, potential spouses are selected primarily based on the community’s established reputation, which gives the community additional power to exert pressure. Even the appearance of not living in conformity with the community is enough to endanger your own chances of getting married.

​ Women are also required to only * marry * within the community. Men can marry non-Ahmadi Muslims or members of the other two Abrahamic religious communities (Judaism, Christianity) with the permission of the Khalifa. This leads to an imbalance in the available spouses. The absurd thing is that in western societies Ahmadis have more contact with men and women who are not Ahmadis. The segregation mainly exists within the Jama’at. Depending on the size of the Jama’at in the respective country, the difference can be considerable. In some areas there is a ratio of 1: 5 between men and women. [ 7th ] This exacerbates the problem for women who are under even closer observation and pressure from the Jama’at and her families. There are always women who complain about this fact and the systematic disadvantage. The criticism of the system is usually completely ignored and you are then accused by your parents or other members of not having enough love for your parents, trust in the Jama’at system or loyalty to the Khalifa. You should practice patience and prayer and submit to your destiny. Sometimes, as a solution, these women are advised to enter into a polygamous marriage with an already married man. [ 8th ][archived] Or it is said that one should marry one’s children early so as not to be among those who remain behind. [ 9th ] All things that are not a real solution to systematic problems.

How do you experience the repressive sexual morality in the Jama’at? What can we do against it? How did you experience this marriage pressure within the Jama’at and how did you deal with it?

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Who is Amatul Hafeez (1904–1987)? The youngest child of Mirza Ghulam Ahmad

Amtul Hafeez or Amatul Hafeez or Nawab Amtul Hafeez was the youngest child of Mirza Ghulam Ahmad and Nusrat Jahan Begum. MGA had already died in 1908, his wife and other people must have arranged for the marriage of Amtul Hafiz (the other daughter of MGA) to the other son of Nawab Muhammad Ali Khan (his son from a previous marriage), his name was Nawab Abdullah Khan. The marriage was announced on June 7th, 1915 by Maulvi Ghulam Rasul Rajeki and announced in the Al-Hakam, it was also mentioned by MGA’s enemy, Maulvi Sanullah in his newspaper entitled, “Muraqa Qadiani”. The marriage took place on 22 February 1917. MGA’s daughter was barely 13 years old. This was a class child marriage, her husband was over 40 years old. They both moved to Malerkotla and began sleeping together immediately. Amtul Hafeez and Abdullah Khan seem to have had 9 children, 3 sons and 6 daughters, we have only found 6 in the below. 2 of Mirza Bashir Ahmad’s sons and two of his grandsons married four daughters of Amatul Hafiz Begum. It should be noted that Nawab Muhammad Ali Khan  and Nawab Muhammad Abdullah Khan (father and son) had a shared income, and there were many problems of state properties during the English rule. Nawab Muhammad Ali Khan was forced to move to Qadian, leaving everything behind.

Amatul Hafeez and Nawab Abdullah Khan’s children

1–Their eldest daughter is Nusrat Jehan who is the wife of Mirza Naseer Ahmad Tariq, grandson of Mirza Bashir Ahmad.

2—Daughter— Zakia Begum born in 1923, died in 2017.   She was married to Colonel Mirza Daud Ahmad.

2—-Daughter—-Sahibzadi Qudsiyah Begum Sahiba, she was married to Mirza Majeed Ahmad, who was a first cousin, they  were marred in 1950.

3——-son—- Mirza Mahmood Ahmad,

4—-daughter—-Durre Sameen, who is the daughter in law of Mir Mahmood Ahmad Sahib.

5—- son named Mirza Ghulam Qadir Sahib Shaheed who was married to Amatun Nasir Sahiba, daughter of Mir Daud Sahib.

6——daughter named Fauzia Shameem Sahiba (born in 1938) who is married to Syed Mudassar Ahmad Sahib, who is also a life-devotee.

7—-Daughter—Sahibzadi Amatul Bari Begum Sahiba (1928–2015).  Her nikah took place in 1944, she was 16 years old.

Did they move to Pakistan in 1947?
They seem to have both moved to Rabwah, Pakistan in 1948.

In 1948, her husband, Nawab Abdullah Khan sahib had a severe heart attack.  Although, due to Allah’s mercy, he survived, he was never able to lead a normal life again (see page 47).

On August 25, 1962, Amatul Hafiz Begum, the daughter of the founder of the Community, Mirza Ghulam Ahmad, laid the foundation stone for the first mosque in Switzerland.

She died in Rabwah and is buried there.

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Mirza Ghulam Ahmad’s desire for a 3rd marriage led him to ask Noorudin about his pre-teen daughter

The Ahmadiyya movement has always supported “child-marriage” and polygamy.  In fact, when MGA got married in roughly 1853, he was barely 13 years old and his new wife was younger (his first cousin).  He married again in 1884, Nusrat Jehan Begum was roughly 12 years old if not younger, her younger brother was 2 years old (in 1884) and 3rd youngest sibling hadn’t even been born yet.  MGA had barely been married 18 months by January of 1886 and he decided to leave his wife and spend 40 days in seclusion about 100 miles away from Qadian.  In March of 1886 he had his famous announcement of Feb. 20th, 1886 published.  In this announcement, MGA was predicting a 3rd marriage and a promised son most likely from a 3rd marriage.  MGA seems to have had correspondence with Noorudin (while Noorudin was still in Jammu) about all of these predictions/prophecies.  During the course of that correspondence, MGA seems to have also proposed to Noorudin about Noorudin’s young daughter from a previous marriage (Noorudin was roughly 42 in this era), we have cross-checked both major biographical works on the life of Noorudin (english books only) and we can’t find any data on this.  Shaikh Yacub Ali Irfani also makes an appearance here, he seems to have been working with Noorudin as a student/helper as early as 1886 and in Jammu.  Irfani wrote in a note to the effect that Noorudin would not be allowing his young daughter to marry MGA, since his young daughter was not an adult.  This daughter disappeared from the scene, Noorudin married again in 1889, and his daughter (Amtul Hai) from this marriage married the Khalifa in 1914.  From his first wife, Fatima Sahiba (daughter of Sheikh Mukarram Sahib Bhervi), he had nine sons and five daughters.  We are still unsure which daughter MGA was asking to marry.

The letters with a rough translation into english

Latter No. 3

My Dear Brother
Your esteemed letter was received,which spreads fragrance of enthusiasm for truth JAZAKALLAH. Prayers were made for your pious daughter. It is a blessing that she has memorized the holy Quran. Otherwise it is a rare thing in the women of this country. How lucky are her parents and the ones who would establish new relationship to you relating to her.

Ghulam Ahmad
11th March, 1886

On 8th June, 1886 MGA sent another letter to Hakim Molvi Nuruddin elaborating his intentions with regard to third marriage and promised son. For the sake of brevity we reproduce only relevant portion as under:-

My Dear Brother,
Four months back, it was revealed to this humble self that i will be blessed with a magnificent son whose name would be Bashir. I was mistaken to think that the promised son would be born of my present wife, but the excessive Ilham have now confirmed that Allah has decided that He will get me re-married to a third wife and bless the promised sone from this third wife. Two different women were motioned for this marriage, but as guided by Allah, both were rejected as one was a misfortunate and other was ugly, since Allah wanted the boy to be born of a woman perfect in piety and beauty.

Some blind critics raised objection as to why the promised son not born of previous pregnancy. What I understand is that the prophesy would materialize after third marriage. This third marriage is to take place shortly. To whom this marriage will take place, excessive Iham are taking place and storm like intensity is found in the intentions of god.

Mirza Ghulam Ahmad
Qadian, 8th June 1886

MGA sent another letter on 20th June to Molvi Nuruddin, the contents of which suggest that Nuruddin did not like the idea of third marriage because there is a note of Irfani, the compiler of Maktubat e Ahmad, which confirms that perhaps Nuruddin disapproved MGA’s proposal for his daughter. Now read the letter and note of Irfani.

My Dear Brother,
Esteemed letter was received, this humble self had written to you of his third marriage just to inform a friend of the heavenly secrets, because it is the habit of this humble self that he informs of some of the Hidden orders (ghaibi amoor)to his friends to increase their faiths.

Since the revelation of ilham of third marriage, this humble self is praying for postponement of this order, but continuance of ilham prove that it has become a definite fate. (Taqdir e Mubram). This humble self has decided to avoid from doing this until a clear and categorical heavenly compulsion is received.

Wassalam- humble self
Ghulam Ahmad
20th June 1886

Note by Shaikh Yaqub Ali Irfani : 
Allah has given glad-tiding and signs for this third marriage to hazrat sb and he motioned it to his nears and dears who were far away from Allah although not deniers. Hazrat sb informed of these glade tidings to Hakim Nuruddin. As far as he (irfani) knows Hakim sb was ready to give his daughter in Nikah to MGA, in case if she was adult.

Now from such bizarre events, any impartial ahmadi, not only can judge as to what types of weak and fabricated revelations MGA mentions to have received, but also see the quick manoeuvrings he do which surely do not matches with that of a high moral character of a messenger of Allah.

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The failed marriages of Muhammad Zafrullah Khan (1893-1985)

Zafrullah colluded with the British Colonists before and after WW-2.  In fact, he was the Ahmadi voice in parliament and he sided with the British in many situations.  He hurt Pakistan and made sure that that “British-interest” were of the highest priority, he even represented Palestine and made sure that they lost all cases.  He secretly wrote the Lahore Resolution in 1940, as London was bombed and the British feared that they would soon lost India to Japan.

His children
Ahmadi sources normally shy away from this topic.  Nevertheless, Zafrullah Khan only had one child, a daughter named Amtul Haye.  In 2019, her whereabouts are totally unknown, it is also unknown whether she had any surviving children.  Ahmadiyya sources tell us that he passed away while in Lahore at his daughter and son-in-laws house.

He married his cousin inititally
It has been reported to us that Zafrullah Khan married his cousin (Iqbal Begum) as his first marriage, she died soon thereafter.  He then married her sister (Rashida Begum), she also died a few years after the marriage, we have to assume that all of this happened by 1930.  He then married Badar Begum of the Behar Colony in British-India.  She gave Zafrullah Khan his only child, Amtul Haye.  Badar Begum filed for divorce soon after and lived as a single-parent by roughly 1940.  In 1955/1956, Zafrullah Khan married for the 4th time.  This time he seems to have fell in love with a Lebanese girl (Bushra Rabani, who was living in Syria)(Also See the Alyum magazine from Cairo, 1955), he performed the Nikkah ceremony in the Pakistani embassy in Syria.  Syrians Muslims called this marriage as illegal in the press.  She divorced Zafrullah Khan a few years later.  It is unclear if Zafrullah married again.


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Mirza Ghulam Ahmad accused Maryam of meeting with Joseph before her marriage with him

MGA insulted many holy people in Islam, Christianity and Judaism, he even stole “hindu -styled-arguments” and passed them off as his own.  We thought we had covered it thoroughly, however, everyday we find new data.  Recently, we found a reference from MGA’s book “Ayyamus-Sulah”, in english as “The Age of Peace”, it was published in 1898, in Urdu (see Hidden treasures, page 239).  This book dealt mostly with the issues of the plague, which was running rampant in India in those days, however, MGA also insulted Maryam, the mother of Esa (as).

The context of this specific quote
MGA is expressing his hate against Pashtuns, Afghans, Israelites, and Mary the mother of Jesus Christ, may peace and blessings of Allah be upon her. He says pushtunes and afghans are from the lineage of Bani Israel so they don’t mind extra marital relationship just like the tribes of Bani Israel. He alleges that sometimes their women get pregnant and give birth to children out of these illicit relationships, then he gives the example of Maryam a.s. that she was found accompanying her fiancée Yusuf Najjar before getting married to him.  NAUZUBILLAH. He also made mockery of the faces and features of Bani Israel tribes and their dresses.

The original scan and translation from roohani khazyian 14 -page 300 (ayam alsulah)

Some quotes from Ayyamus-Sulah
1—-“””It is through the prayer that one should seek the path of tadbir. Therefore, the Prayer and tadbir are two facets of the human endeavour and intellect. It is therefore necessary that man should seek the path of tadbir through prayer.””” (Ayyamus-Sulah, p. 3, Ruhani
Khaza’in vol. 14, p. 231)

2—-“””…I saw in a dream that God’s angels were planting black trees in different parts of the Punjab. Those trees were very ugly, black in colour, terrifying and of small size. I asked some of those who were planting them: What kind of trees are these? They answered: These are trees of the plague which is about to spread in the country. It remained unclear to me whether it was said that the plague would spread during the coming winter or the winter after, but it was a terrible sight which I saw.””” (Ayyamus-Sulah, p. 121, Ruhani Khaza’in, vol. 4, p. 361)


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Mirza Basheer-uddin Mahmud Ahmad had 20+ children with 7 wives

This proves that the Mirza family is corrupt.  MGA’s son, Mirza Basheer-uddin Mahmud Ahmad, eventually had 7 wives and 20+ children. However, his 2 brothers didn’t, it was only the Khalifa who was allowed to indulge in multiple wives and etc. Nowadays, you will see Ahmadi’s on social media claiming that taking more then one wife is only in cases of war or extreme necessity, but how do they explain their Khalifa taking so many? Furthermore, its important to note that he had 9 children with his first wife, which is more then enough, and, he was never involved in any war, nor were any Ahmadi’s in this era. Remember, in the past, Ahmadiyya Khalifa’s supported polygamy. The Mirza family is strict on women, in fact, MGA said that a man should divorce his wife if she even talks to man whilst alone. One more thing, as we all know, MGA divorced his first wife in-spite in the 1891-1893 era, since she was against MGA and his proposal for his 3rd marriage. What’s really important to note here is that MGA’s first wife had already lived separate of MGA for 30+ years, MGA used her for sex only, which resulted in 2 sons, who also hated MGA and his behaviors.

WIFE #1, they were married in 1902, she was only 10
Rashida Begum, also called Mehmooda Begum and Umme Nasir (mother of nasir), she died in 1958, in Murree, Pakistan.  

Three children died in infancy, among them was Mirza Naseer Ahmad, a son born in 1906

1. Mirza Nasir Ahmad, son (born in 1909 died in 1982)
2. Naasira Begum, daughter (She married her first cousin, Mirza Mansoor Ahmad, their son is Mirza Masroor Ahmad, the current Ahmadi Khalifa).  Mirza Masroor Ahmad has 2 children, Mirza Waqas Ahmad and Amtul Waris Farah.

3. Mirza Mubarak Ahmad, son–born-May 1914
4. Mirza (Dr.) Munawwar Ahmad, son, 1918–1990.  He had 5 children, 4 girls, 1 boy and by 1990, 14 grandchildren.

5. Mirza Hafeez Ahmad, son
6. Mirza Azhar Ahmad, son
7. Mirza Anwaar Ahmad, son
8. Mirza Rafiq Ahmad, son
9. Naseera Begum, daughter

Amatul Hayye—married on May 31st 1914, died in 1924, See here

1. Amatul Qayyum, daughter, she was married off to the famous MM Ahmad, they had no children, it was a cousin marriage.

2. Amatul Rasheed, daughter, she was married off to Mian Abdur Rahim Ahmad Sahib.
She seems to have confided to some Ex-Ahmadi’s about the sexual behavior of her father.  See here: See testimonial #23.  She died in 2013, she left 1 son (Dr Zaheerud Din Mansoor) and 3 daughters, one daughter is named Amatul Baseer her marriage was mentioned in the USA Ahmadiyya gazette of July 1968.  They are all in America these days.  Dr. Zaheeruddin Mansoor Ahmad is currently the National Secretary Taleem-ul-Quran and Waqf-e-Ardhi.  She died in Maryland.  Her husband, Mian Abdur Rahim Ahmad translated many speeched of Mirza Tahir Ahmad in 1984 and 1985.  Other then that, we don’t have detailed information on him.  Here is a video by Dr. Zaheeruddin Mansoor Ahmad.

3. Mirza Khalil Ahmad, son—may have died, is not mentioned at all in

Syedah Maryam (died in 1944) called Umm Tahir (mother of tahir), the daughter of Dr Syed Abdul Sattar Shah, They were married on 7 February 1921 in the Mubarak Mosque.  She was barely 14-16 years old, whereas the Khalifa was 35.

She died in 1944

One son named Mirza Azhar Ahmad died in infancy the others are

1. Mirza Tahir Ahmad, son, born in December of 1928 (married Asifa in 1957)
————————–Granddaughter 1—Shaukat Jehan, married to Mirza  Ahmad, her first cousin
————————–Granddaughter 2—Faiza, married to Mirza Luqman Ahmad Sahib, who was the son of Mirza Nasir Ahmad, her first cousin
————————–Granddaughter 3—Yasmin Rehman Mona, married to Karim Khan
————————–Granddaughter 4—Atiatul Mujib Tooba, (was married to Sultan Malik Sahib) (DIVORCED) (
2. Amatul Hakeem, daughter (she married Syed Daud Muzaffar Shah, he died in 2011) (They married their daughter to Mirza Masroor Ahmad, the current Ahmadiyya Khalifa in 1977).
3. Amatul Basit, daughter
4. Amatul Jameel, daughter

Sarah Begum—married to her in 1925, she was dead by 1933, she seems to have died while giving birth, both the child and the mother died tragically.  

See here also.

1. Mirza Rafi Ahmad, son–Born on March 27, 1927
2. Amatul Naseer Begum, daughter, born in roughly late 1930, was 3 1/2 years old when her mother died.
3. Mirza Hanif Ahmad, son, born in 1932, died in 2014.

Azizah Begum called Umm Wassim (mother of wassim)–Married her in 1926
the daughter of Seth Abu Bakr Yousaf of Jeddah, Saudi Arabia.  According to tareekh ahmadiyyat, vol 4 page 554, it goes “Hazrat Khalifa tul Masih 5th Nikah was 1st Feb 1926, also published in the Alfazal of 5th Feb 1926.  The whereabouts of these 2 sons are totally unknown.  The Khalifa claims that Seth Abu Bakr of Jeddah was a business man who had written to the Khalifa in 1914 in terms of marriage for his daughter, the Khalifa agreed 10 years later, and was finally married in 1926, the details and logistics are unknown (See Fazl e Omar, online english edition).  Was this arab even an Ahmadi?  

1. Mirza Wasim Ahmad, son, he married his maternal aunt, Amtul Qudoos, she was the daughter of Dr. Mir Muhammad Ismail.

2. Mirza Naeem Ahmad, son.  He married Amatul Momin sahiba, she passed away at the age of 68 in 2009). She was the paternal granddaughter of Hadhrat Mirza Sharif Ahmad and maternal granddaughter of Mirza Aziz`Ahmad sahib. Her father was Sahibzada Mirza Zafar Ahmad sahib and her mother was Amatul Naseer sahiba.

Maryam Siddiqa called Choti Aapa (Younger Sister) and Umm Matin (mother of Matin)
Married on 30 September 1935 the daughter of Mir Mohammad Ismail sahib (the Khalifa’s uncle), this was the Khalifa’s first cousin.  She was younger then 18, since she hadn’t attended college at the time of marriage.  She was the first cousin of the Khalifa.

1. Amatul Matin,  or spelled as Amatul Mateen, daughter, she was born on 21 December 1936 in Qadian at Darul Masih. She was the wife of Mir Mahmood Ahmad Nasir Sahib, who was her first cousin. She passed away around midnight on 14 October 2013 at the age of 76. Mir Mahmood Ahmad Nasir Sahib is a Waqfe Zindagi and has served as missionary in Spain and USA. She also had the opportunity to stay there (spain) and fulfil her obligations as wife of a missionary. When Masjid Basharat was constructed in Spain the family was there and worked extremely hard for the inauguration ceremony. Hazrat Khalifatul Masih IV (may Allah have mercy on him) related that during those days if the family had the chance to retire at 3 am they would be happy to get some sleep. She leaves behind four sons and a daughter. Her two sons are Waqfe Zindagi. Dr Ghulam Ahmad Farrukh Sahib who did PhD in Computer Science from USA but is now working in the offices of Sadr Anjuman Ahmadiyya, Rabwah and the other Waqfe Zindagi left his employment in USA and came to London and works with Hazrat Khalifatul Masih, Muhammad Ahmad Sahib. She has one daughter who lives in Holland. One son is a doctor in Dubai and another is in USA.

Bushra Begum aka Mehar Appa, married on 24 July 1944, daughter of Syed Aziz Ahmad Shah

NO children, she was also a cousin of Fauzia Faizi’s mother.

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Study on Ahmadiyya organized conversion through marriage scheme!!!

My team and I have recently found this new study on Ahmadiyya and their conversion through marriage scheme.  We have written in the past about how Mahershalalhashbaz Ali converted to Ahmadiyya. We have also discussed how when young Ahmadis in the West fall in love with non-Ahmadis, their is a fake conversion process which allows these type of relationships to become Hilaal or Kosher or “accepted” by the Ahmadiyya jamaat.

The study
Transnational marriage among Ahmadi Muslims in the UK


Ahmadi Muslims constitute a reformed sect of Islam founded in 1889 by a
charismatic leader, Mirza Ghulam Ahmad. In this article I explore the character and
processes of transnational marriage arrangements among Ahmadi Muslims over three
generations in the UK. I suggest that the process of conversion to Ahmadiyyat and the
organizational structure of Ahmadi mosques have combined to produce a flexible
pattern of marriage among Ahmadis that is unusual among South Asians. A significant
number of earlier and contemporary Ahmadi marriages are interethnic, reflecting an
expansive Ahmadiya identity that is perceived to be independent of ethnicity. Further,
analysis of marriage proposals accepted as well as rejected suggests gender differences
in perceptions of and motivations for marriage. The analysis suggests that while gender
differences in expectations of marriage may have parallels in some other South Asian
transnational marriages, Ahmadi religious identity and organization plays a distinctive
role in shaping the processes of Ahmadi marriage arrangements.

British Ahmadi marriages are frequently transnational in the narrow sense of entailing
the migration of at least one partner from their country of residence to another as a
result of marriage. These marriages are also transnational in a wider sense in that that
social links are usually reciprocally maintained across international borders after the
marriage, often over two or more generations (Faist 2000; Kivisto 2001; Vertovec
1999). Such relationships, facilitated by modern forms of technology, speak of a
transnationalism that is as much a mind-set and attitude to place as it is a social
practice (Caplan 1988).

In these respects, Ahmadi transnational marriages share many of the characteristics
of transnational marriages among other British South Asian Muslim and
Punjabi Sikh populations. However, as I go on to argue, the processes of conversion
to Ahmadiyyat and the need to incorporate new converts through marriage have
resulted in flexible patterns of and attitudes towards marriage that are unusual among
South Asians. As Muslims, Ahmadis permit cousin marriages, which account for a
small proportion of contemporary marriages. Some of these cousin marriages are also
transnational. However, the research on which this article is based indicates that the
number of cousin marriages is declining among British-born and educated Ahmadis in
the UK. By contrast, among British Pakistanis there is local evidence of increased
rates of transnational cousin marriage (Shaw 2001) and among Mirpuris cousin marriage may account for 60 per cent of all marriages (Ballard 2002). Further,
although Ahmadis are not compelled to follow exogamous marriage rules, they are
nevertheless, like British Punjabi Sikhs, likely to marry non-kin and to find spouses
for their well-educated offspring from an increasingly global Ahmadi diaspora.
Indeed, as I suggest in this article, British Ahmadi women may be more likely to
choose a spouse from the UK or Canada than from Pakistan, but this is not necessarily
the case for Ahmadi men. However, unlike other British South Asian populations, the
Ahmadis as a community also welcome marriages between different ethnic groups
and so contract marriages that are both transnational and interethnic. The only condition
for marriage is that both parties to the marriage must be Ahmadi. A further
distinction between Ahmadis and other South Asian Muslim communities is that the
mosque may play a key role in arranging marriages.

I begin the article with a brief historical and organizational overview of the
Ahmadis to contextualize their contemporary marriage patterns and demonstrate the
historical precedent for interethnic marriage. I analyse specific cases in which
transnational marriages were suggested and refused, or conversely, successfully
contracted. I draw on data gathered by interview and by participant-observation,
supplemented by printed and electronic materials by and about the Ahmadis, and
intend to be suggestive rather than conclusive about current transnational trends.

Data were collected on 66 marriages and of these 30 were transnational in the
narrow sense that one spouse, normally resident in one country, migrated to another
country as a result of marriage. These marriages were more than one-way migrations
in that in all cases, links between two or more nation-states were maintained so that
those involved formed transnational communities ‘linked through exchange, reciprocity,
and solidarity to achieve a high degree of social cohesion, and a common
repertoire of symbolic and collective representation’ (Faist 2000: 208). In addition, in
this article I draw on cases of marriages that had been suggested and planned but did
not happen; these cases are instructive for the insights they offer into the motivations
and expectations that influence contemporary Ahmadi marriage trends.

While most of these data concern Ahmadis of South Asian descent living in the
UK, several interviews were conducted in the USA, and a few others via email. The
interviewees were well-established in terms of education, professional standing, home
ownership and other indicators of economic and social success. They tended to be
among the more active members of the mosque. In this sense they may not be fully
representative of the total Ahmadi population in Britain today. Genealogical material
collected from individuals covered a minimum of four generations and this permitted
general trends in migration to be discerned. These data were organized into kinship
charts of a standard anthropological form and all the charts included several transnational
marriages, frequently over two or more generations.

Origins and organization
Ahmadi Muslims today constitute a transnational population that has its origins in the
Punjab in India. While some migrated to Africa three or more generations ago and others came further west, their numbers in the UK remained small until 1984 when
anti-Ahmadi legislation in Pakistan effectively criminalized their daily lives and
religious practices (Gualtieri 1989; Home Office 2004; Hyman 1989). In 1984 the
Khalifa, the Ahmadis’ spiritual leader, had no option but to leave Pakistan. He chose
to relocate in the UK where a flourishing Ahmadi community had been established in
the early decades of the twentieth century and where the national language was one
with which the Khalifa and many middle-class Pakistanis were familiar. At this point
the Ahmadis, who had always had a transnational, if not frankly global, outlook
became essentially a Western-based organization with its roots in the subcontinent.
Since 1984 there has been an increase in Ahmadi emigration from Pakistan to the UK
and other western countries.

Ahmadi Muslims are members of a reformed sect of Islam founded in 1889 by a
charismatic leader, Mirza Ghulam Ahmad. From its inception Ahmadiyyat has been
‘one of the most active and controversial movements within modern Islam’ (Friedmann
1989: 1).1
The seeds of this success were to be found in the organization from
the very start, for within a decade of its foundation Ahmadiyya Islam ‘had sufficient
membership, pledged to the founder through bai’at (initiation) of a traditional Sufi
kind, and centralized through regular fund raising, the publication of journals and the
establishment of schools, to justify’ its claim to be a distinct religious community
(Powell 2000: 129).

While the Ahmadis may not be quite like the Anglo-Indian ‘transnationals of the
mind’ described by Caplan (1998), they too are one of the possible outcomes of
cultural interaction in a colonial environment and in that sense ‘an acculturative
movement’ that is the product of transnational exchange (Jones 1989: 115ff). Ahmadi
missionaries, for example, used the tactics of the Christian missionaries in India
against the Christians themselves, and in an explicit move of ‘reverse colonialism’,
were sent to the UK and USA in the early twentieth century to convert the Christian
populations of those countries to Ahmadiyyat, or ‘the true Islam’.2 Further, the Ahmadis, in their beliefs and practices combine extreme conservatism with an allegiance to science and rationalism, thereby synthesizing distinct national and cultural heritages into a single new and transnational religious movement (Fisher 1963). The Ahmadis constitute a highly mobile population that simultaneously looks both east and west, is prepared to assimilate, within limits, to the cultures in which it finds itself yet adheres strictly to basic tenets of Islam.

The initial converts to Ahmadiyyat were middle class, largely town-based professionals
but within a short time many less educated and more rural people also
converted. This resulted in a ‘bipolar’ pattern of conversion (Jones 1989: 119) that
makes any homogenizing statement about the origins of the Ahmadis or their
general educational attainment before migration to other parts of the world
impossible. While many Ahmadis were economic migrants, others migrated as
missionaries. As the latter founded new missions the number of Ahmadi communities
around the world grew. Nowadays, economic migration to the UK is very
difficult for South Asians and some communities can only ‘import’ kin through
arranged marriages (Ballard 2001; Shaw 2001). Unlike many South Asian communities, the Ahmadis, who may use the marriage route to migration, also enter as asylum-seekers.

Many Ahmadis are compelled to seek asylum because of religious persecution
based on their belief in the prophethood of Mirza Ghulam Ahmad. This has led orthodox
Muslims to declare them heretics. It has also suited Pakistan’s political leaders to
have a ready internal target for disgruntled and increasingly Islamist sections of the
population. However, a large community of Ahmadis continues to live in the Ahmadi
city of Rabwah in Pakistan, and many British Ahmadis have kin there. Rabwah, and
all it stands for, forms part of the transnational mind-set of Ahmadis everywhere.

Marriage: a flexible arrangement
A precedent for the flexibility of contemporary marriage patterns that distinguishes
the Ahmadis from other South Asians can be discerned in narrated accounts of the
marriages of those who first converted to Ahmadiyya Islam. These accounts are
drawn from detailed interviews with children and grandchildren who heard these
marriage stories as part of their family history. If a single woman became an Ahmadi
in early twentieth-century India, the immediate personal impact on her life would be
that she could not marry a non-Ahmadi and so the usual channels for finding a spouse
within a biradari or zat (extended kin group) were no longer available to her. If such a
woman were already married she might find her husband unwilling to convert with
her and unwilling to keep her as an Ahmadi. The result was that those who had
already become Ahmadis would arrange suitable marriages, or remarriages, for these
women thereby helped them to find a place in an Ahmadi social network. In this way
the honour of women was protected, and the faith strengthened both in the present and
future through children born to these converts. Flexibility in choice of marriage partner was thus, in part, a product of necessity.

If a man converted to Ahmadiyyat his family position would be a good predictor
of how many others would convert with him. A senior well-respected man would be
able to bring not only his own immediate kin into Ahmaddiyat but also brothers and
their families. Others, perhaps younger or less influential, might convert as individuals
and persuade only their wives to convert with them. As a result, extended
families were often divided into Sunni and Ahmadi branches, which mostly ceased to

British Ahmadis today do not feel obliged to choose spouses for their children
based on biradari or other (stereo)typically South Asian grounds. Of course, Ahmadis
can and do marry among kin and find spouses for their children who are from the
same regional or linguistic background as themselves but these are never cited as
primary considerations in the choice of a son/daughter-in-law (Shaw 2001). More
interesting still is the openness to interethnic, often also transnational, marriages
found among Ahmadis in the UK. Ahmadis are evangelizers for the faith and
proselytize whenever and wherever possible. Often new converts are single and
relatively well-educated. Once converted, the mosque and the Ahmadi social network
will help to arrange a marriage for the convert and so secure her or him within mutually reinforcing and supporting Ahmadi links. So where shared cultural background
is often a prerequisite for a marriage within many South Asian communities,
the only condition the Ahmadis explicitly state and always cite for accepting a
marriage is that the ‘outsider’ be Ahmadi and therefore, in religious terms, not an
outsider at all. Maintaining ethnic group endogamy, which is a central consideration
in many South Asian arranged marriages and is taken to be a ‘key feature in the longterm
maintenance of transnational networks’, is not a primary concern (Ballard 2001:
46). In fact, given that the long-term goal is to convert the world to Ahmaddiyat, such
inward-looking and self-limiting marriage practices would only delay the inevitable
global victory. The Ahmadi endogamy of faith not only maintains transnational networks
but also helps develop new ones and so spreads the faith.

As if to underline this last point, while other South Asian communities accept
interethnic marriages for a minority, often on condition that the in-marrying outsider
conforms to family and group ideals in terms of education, income and looks (‘tall
and fair’), the Ahmadis seem to make a point of publicly supporting marriages of a
very different kind. Examples from West Africa and Australia illustrate this point.
Pakistani Ahmadi missionaries in West Africa, who were figures of religious
authority, married local women and thereby led by example (Fisher 1963: 150). A
1994 Ahmadi souvenir brochure includes a photograph of the Australian Khan family.
The legend reads: ‘The first fruit of the mosque … Mrs Khan is the first Aboriginal
person to accept Ahmadiyyat’ (Ahmadiya Muslim Association 1994: 46). Although
the photograph does not make it explicit, it is highly likely, given the relatively recent
establishment of an Ahmadi community in Australia, that Mr Khan was not born in
Australia and this marriage is both interethnic and transnational.

Such interethnic and transnational marriages constitute only a minority of all
Ahmadi marriages, but one final example is a contemporary British Ahmadi case of
Nadia. Nadia is 45 years old and one of seven sisters and a brother. Five sisters have
university degrees, two of them doctorates, and three have married converts. One of
Nadia’s brothers-in-law is a white German citizen who converted to Ahmadiyyat in
Israel and married a sister who had read Hebrew at university. This couple has
recently moved from California to Israel where the husband now works for the United
Nations. Another sister is married to a white English convert. The third brother-in-law
converted from a Christian Goan family. Nadia’s only brother is married to a Russian
convert. This family is exceptional, with four of the eight siblings marrying converts
and with three of these marriages being both interethnic and transnational.

Even if it could be shown that Ahmadis and other South Asian communities contract
the same proportion of interethnic marriages, evidently the processes that lead to
such marriages, which include the desire to integrate converts to the faith, are
distinctive to Ahmaddiyat.3

The organization of contemporary Ahmadi transnational marriages
The organizational structure of the Ahmadis means that besides being organized
through family networks, marriages may also be arranged through the mosque. As outlined above, contemporary Ahmadi transnational marriage patterns combine
features already noted for other South Asian communities. Like British Sikhs, many
Ahmadis are well-educated with access to professional international networks where
marriages may be arranged and for whom spouses do not have to be sought within a
limited kin-defined group. However, as Muslims, Ahmadis permit cousin marriages,
and most marriages are arranged for the partners in their early to mid-twenties, which
is younger than the norm for the British population. Ahmadi women mostly veil in
public and often work part-time or interrupt careers to raise families, which tend to be
larger than the British average. The combination of accepting consanguineous and
also more broadly-based marriages maximizes choice of spouse in a globalized social
network where social mobility is just one factor in the pragmatic decision-making that
takes place for each marriage. The marriage network is often defined by social
interactions at the mosque and, in this respect, the Ahmadi organization itself is
transnational in a way that is unique among Muslims.

There is a central mosque, located wherever the Khalifa is resident, and all mosques
around the world send information to and receive instruction from this centre.
The Ahmadi mosque network is designed, in fact, rather like the ancient Roman
colonies where each new colony replicated the form and structure of the imperial
centre, a kind of Rome away from Rome. By contrast, in most other Muslim communities
mosques do not share any organizational structure or necessarily combine to
present a uniform approach to matters Islamic. Indeed, they may often work as rivals
to each other and have congregations that are ethnically distinct from each other.

Ahmadi mosques provide a religious, social and recreational environment in
which, unusually for Muslims, women are expected to attend in equal numbers as
men. Every Ahmadi mosque has a uniform organizational structure with women’s and
men’s committees and youth organizations for girls and boys. Committee membership
rotates by election. Each country has a national women’s and a men’s president and
an annual timetable of functions to bring the community together. In each country
each region also has a local women’s and men’s president and associated committees.
The mosques are ‘greedy institutions’ that depend on the voluntary work of their
members and many individuals devote long hours to mosque functions. Such volunteering,
expected of all members according to their capacities, provides individuals
with a ready network of acquaintances and social interactions that regularly result in
the establishment of marriage networks extending beyond kin connections and that
are often also transnational in nature. Any Ahmadi migrating from one country to
another can simply offer to volunteer in a mosque and join an instantly recognizable
organization with familiar rituals and events. Such organizational conformity facilitates
transnational movement and provides a strong sense of an integrated community,
which, to answer the questions posed by Guarnizo and Smith about the practical
modalities of transnational network construction, fosters ‘principles of trust and
solidarity … across national territories’, provides the ‘discourses and practices’ to
hold the networks in place, organizes ‘social closure and control across borders to
guarantee loyalty and curtail malfeasance’ and puts in place ‘the sociocultural basis
supporting transnational relations and ties’ (in Ballard 2001: 8). Some of the sociocultural basis is reinforced by the technology available to the Ahmadis. This
includes the global Muslim Television Ahmadiya (MTA), which produces some of
the time/space compression declared to be an aspect of transnationalism and is a
means of communication for ‘communities without propinquity’ (Faist 2000: 208).4

For many Ahmadis migration from the periphery to the metropolitan centre
offered opportunities for educational advance and financial reward not as readily
available in the home country. Marriage patterns for earlier generations correspondingly
show that those established in the UK married spouses in Pakistan who then
migrated westwards. This was the most common form of transnational marriage for
people who are now in the ‘grandparent’ generation. While interviewees overwhelmingly
stated that the cultural expectation is for women to move to their husband’s
home on marriage, it is clear from actual migration patterns that if the wife is based in
the UK the husband leaves his home to join her. However, marriage to a British-based
spouse was not always merely a ticket to the UK. For example, I came across the
example of an unmarried doctor who already had official permission from the British
government to work in the country. He asked his family to find him a bride who was
already living in Britain. In this case the marriage was not a route to migration but a
way of establishing a family with a woman who would not have simultaneously to
deal with leaving her natal family and also her country of residence. Today, a popular
marriage route is from the UK to Canada and, here again, if a woman is Canadian her
British husband is more likely to migrate to join her. In these instances migration
westwards takes priority over the gender norm that expects women to move on
marriage. It is also clear that as a significant Ahmadi population has established itself
in the UK, the need for spouses from abroad is not as pressing as it once was. More
British-born people are marrying each other and there is a large enough local
community for this to be possible.

Limits to transnational marriages: place and gender among UK Ahmadis
Against this outline of trends in Ahmadi transnational marriage, in this section I
consider some specific marriages and mosque-organized proposals that failed to
materialize for what they reveal about the motivations for contemporary transnational
Ahmadi marriages and the limits to the transnational reach of such marriages.
Understanding why particular transnational marriage proposals are refused offers us
insights into the motivations for marriage that may be more revealing than attempts to
quantify the frequency of transnational marriages. The first two cases discussed here –
Ahmad and Naila – concern British Ahmadis with kin in Pakistan and wellestablished
transnational networks linking Britain and Pakistan: in both cases, the
British partner was asked to consider marriage to a Pakistani first cousin. The first
case concerns a transnational first-cousin marriage proposed by relatives that never
took place.

Ahmad, who had spent time in Pakistan with his extended family, chose not to
marry his Pakistani cousin citing possible genetic disabilities in offspring for his
decision. His reasoning, the result of imbibing British attitudes to cousin marriage, or the statement that marrying a first cousin is ‘like marrying a sister’, is repeatedly
heard among younger British Ahmadis. In this case, the transnational marriage was
not pursued and Ahmad suggested a local marriage with the sister of his best friend.
This marriage transformed friendship into kinship while relations with family in
Pakistan continue as before and the usual forms of transnational social reciprocity
remain in place.

The second case concerns a transnational marriage arranged by the families of the
intended spouses that did not happen. The couple had agreed to the marriage and all
arrangements were in place when the woman finally decided, just days before the
marriage was due to be celebrated, that she did not want to go through with it. Naila is
well-educated and intent on pursuing a professional career. Her Pakistani cousin was
less educated and Naila felt that the cultural and educational differences between herself
and her cousin would diminish the likelihood of a successful marriage. Despite
family attempts to persuade her to change her mind, Naila persisted in her decision
and the marriage was called off. She later married a local man in the same profession
as herself. The Pakistani cousin went on to make a transnational marriage to another
British Ahmadi.

An intention to marry someone who has also grown up in Britain is widespread
among Ahmadis born and raised in the UK, but does not fully explain contemporary
marriage patterns. My informants cite the educational successes of Ahmadi women in
the UK as a major factor fuelling a trend for British Ahmadi men to find wives in
Pakistan. British Ahmadi men consider Pakistani women to be not quite as Western,
less well-educated and with lower aspirations than their British peers. The British men
use established transnational social networks to find Pakistani wives who then migrate
to the UK. However, these marriages between British men and Pakistani women
mean that it is becoming more difficult for some British Ahmadi women, particularly
the well-educated over twenty-fives, to marry.

The Rishte (marriage, literally ‘proposal’ or ‘match’) Office at the mosque has
now stepped in to try to find a solution to this problem. Until very recently the office
was considered a place of last resort for those whose kin and social networks had
failed to find marriage partners for them. However, the recent success of this office in
finding matches for women over 25, some of whom are divorced, has begun to
change community perceptions. All the marriages that have been agreed are between
British-resident Ahmadis. Here, therefore, the perceived problem resulting from the
decision of some Ahmadi men to marry transnationally has led to the mosque
interceding to facilitate local marriages for some Ahmadi women. This suggests a
possible gender-based distinction in who marries transnationally and this in turn is
informed by the level of education and acculturation of the women and men in
specific local contexts as well as their access to transnational networks.

Another example of mosque-level intervention in match-making suggests that
being an Ahmadi is not always enough when it comes to marriage and that local
ethnic, gender and cultural issues play a role in the decisions made by individuals
about their marriages. This case concerns the experience of black American Ahmadis
and is also an example of the way in which different diasporas may intersect or clash with each other within a religious movement. In the USA the first contact of many
converts to Islam is through the Ahmadis (Turner 1988). In New York Walbridge and
Haneef (1999) describe one Ahmadi mosque that was, for a period, predominantly a
black American site of religious worship. As South Asian migration increased after
1984, South Asians began to take over the committees running the mosque. This led
to tension and the departure of a significant number of black American men from the
mosque. The result was that many of the remaining black American women were
unable to find spouses within the community (Walbridge and Haneef 1999). The
Khalifah intervened and a number of Pakistani Ahmadi men willing to move to the
USA to marry the black American women were identified. In this instance, a local
shortage of suitable men was tackled institutionally by suggesting transnational
marriages that would have led to the migration of South Asian men to the USA, once
again reversing gender norms in a general westward migration pattern. However, the
women in New York did not take up the offer of the Pakistani spouses, citing cultural
differences as justification (Walbridge and Haneef 1999).

In these examples of transnational marriages, arranged at individual and institutional
levels, and regardless of whether they are refused or successfully contracted,
the trends suggest that women and men currently make choices differently. British
men are more likely to agree to marry a Pakistani wife and British women tend to be
more concerned about finding spouses with common local cultural and career
aspirations. This gendered concern appears to be one that British women share with
their black American counterparts. It does not mean that women do not make transnational
marriages; it may simply mean that for some women transnational marriages
may be contracted with men of Western ethnic origins who have converted rather than
with Pakistan-based Ahmadis.

While the Ahmadi population of the world is growing, is increasingly ethnically
diverse and values interethnic and transnational marriages, local individuals may,
because of their personal circumstances and interests, choose not to make certain
types of transnational marriages while accepting others. The gender and country of
residence of the individual in each case appears to be a reasonable predictor of
decision-making relating to marriage in a transnational context.

Conversion to Ahmadiyyat and the organizational structure of Ahmadi mosques have
combined to produce a flexible pattern of marriage among Ahmadis that is unusual
among South Asians. The first unusual feature of these marriages is that a significant
proportion of them are interethnic, reflecting an expansive Ahmadiya identity that is
perceived to be independent of ethnicity, and which can be understood with reference
to the origins and political context of the Ahmadiya movement.

The cases of British Ahmadi marriages discussed here also indicate gendered
differences in the expectations of a marriage that are linked with social class and
place of residence, and that seem to be placing limits on certain forms of transnational
marriages. While these gender differences in expectations of marriage have parallels in some other South Asian transnational marriages, in this article I have argued that
the processes that lead to these outcomes are distinct for the Ahmadis, reflecting
aspects of social class and education linked with Ahmadi religious identity and organization.
Finally, in this preliminary exploration of Ahmadiyya marriage trends, I also
suggest that there may be as much analytical value in paying attention to marriage
proposals that have been rejected as in ones that result in actual marriages, for the
insights they can offer into current expectations of and motivations for marriage.

Marzia Balzani
School of Business and Social Sciences
Southlands College
Roehampton University
80 Roehampton Lane
SW15 5SL

1. According to Ahmadi figures there are now over 10,000 Ahmadi mosques and 200 million
members of the faith in Europe, North America, Asia, Africa and Australia. The best
available non-Ahmadi estimates for the number of Ahmadis in the UK range from 10,000
to 15,000. The Ahmadis’ own website can be accessed from
2. The title of a book written by the son of the founder and second Khalifah, Mahmud Ahmad.
3. Cf. Ballard (2004: 8): ‘the fact that 16.1% of those who identified themselves as being of
mixed White and Asian ancestry [in the 2001 census] also identified themselves as Muslim
may indicate that a higher proportion of Muslim immigrants have had children with White
partners than is or was the case amongst Hindus or Sikhs.’
4. MTA was set up in 1992 on Sky. It broadcasts 24 hours a day in eight languages. The
Ahmadis also have their own websites. Embracing the latest technology continues the mass
printing programmes that were a part of Ahmadi practice from the start.
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presentation, Silver Spring MD: Hartwick Graphic Enterprises.
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Transnational marriage among Ahmadi Muslims in the UK



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